Christmas
is a time to get together to celebrate the birth of Jesus and
to share the love and warmth of family. A sight, a sound, even
a smell can trigger memories of past Christmases where the
blur of time lets us recall only the best and most loved
snapshots of that period in our lives.
While decorating the tree with
my grandchildren, I remembered all the years my father and I
would search for the perfect Christmas tree. We would walk
through the fields of evergreens sometimes coming back two or
three times to be sure we had the right one. I recall Daddy
saying things like “No, we can’t cut the top out of that one.”
and “Is it taller than my head? Then no, we can’t take that
one.” But most vividly, I remember the year Daddy was too
sick to take me and asked my brother, Jeff to take over his
part. I was most apprehensive about this. I knew my desire for
perfection might irritate a young, single man MADE to take his
younger, teenaged sister shopping.
Daddy must have told him what
tree farm to go to because we headed straight there with no
hesitation. He stopped and asked the owner for a saw as we’d
forgotten to get ours, and then drove up the hollow and
parked. Just minutes after getting out of the truck, I saw a
BEAUTIFUL tree…. the perfect height, the perfect width (they
had to be full and fat)….but what if I saw one BETTER? Jeff
followed me all over that tree farm, never complaining, giving
me opinions and encouragement for an hour or more before I
brought him BACK to that first tree. He asked if I was sure,
never hurrying my decision and then proceeded to cut it down
and bring it home. Although he teasingly complained to Dad
about it being the first tree we saw, THAT was the best
Christmas tree I can remember getting.
Then I began to wonder what
Christmas was like at the Spiker
Farm when Daddy was young and I thought others would also be
interested. Putting this idea into action, I called Aunt Ann
and Aunt Boots and asked if they could give me some insight
into who picked out the tree? Where did they get it? Where was
it placed in the house? What kinds of decorations were used?
Were they homemade or store bought? Their answers to these
questions were enlightening and gave me a perception of life
on the farm that I had never been privy to before.
Aunt Ann remembers trudging
through the snow (seems there was always snow for
Christmas in those days) with her
dad, Jake, to pick a tree from off the farm to bring back.
Aunt Boots remembered my dad, Bob, taking over from Jake in
later years. The tree always stood in the downstairs entrance
hall in the corner below the stairs. Both girls remembered how
terribly cold it was in that room as they never used it. The
parlor was kept for company and
the family always gathered in the dining room, shutting off
the heat from those front rooms.
Ann and Boots were in charge of
bringing the special Christmas bulbs down from the attic and
then returning them after Christmas was over. Both girls spoke
of how old and beautiful they were, neither knowing the origin
of them or where they may be today. Could they once have
belonged to Gay’s mother? Does someone in the family put these
same ornaments on their tree today? Do they know how well
loved these ornaments were?
Popcorn strings and ornaments
made in church or school rounded out the decorations and all
were covered in a layer of icicles that Aunt Ann remembers
having to roll carefully back around the cardboard each year
when taking the tree down. No lights (as they didn’t have
electric) or candles were used and Aunt Ann made mention that
it was very plain by today’s standards.
They would bake Christmas
cookies and make pumpkin pie with real whipped cream made from
milk gotten from the cows on the farm. “MMmmmmm…..so
good.” says Aunt Boots. They couldn’t either one remember if
there was a certain menu that was followed every year but they
“always had real good food!”
One particular memory stands out
in the mind of Aunt Boots, one she recalls fondly as being
“the perfect Christmas setting….just like a card. Dad (Jake)
hooked the horses up to the sled and took the whole family
through the snow down to the Holbrook Methodist
Church to see the Christmas play about the birth of Jesus.
Mother (Gay) made the costumes.”
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No
Christmas caroling or neighbor visitations were made on Christmas Eve,
only the excitement and anticipation of the presents to come the next
morning making it hard to sleep. They didn’t remember putting out
stockings but they both believed in Santa and eagerly awaited the
prancing and pawing of little hooves. While telling me this, Aunt
Boots recalls a time when they were all at the little school up Bear
Run where their brother, Brad, was a teacher. All the children were
waiting for Santa to show up and Boots had to use the toilet. Well,
being afraid of actually MEETING Santa in the hall, she remembers
dancing and squirming and crossing her legs and generally suffering
terrible “urges”, all to keep from having to go out in the hall by
herself. I laughed thinking of how my own
grandchildren TALK of seeing Santa until they actually get there and
see him. Haha!
On
Christmas morning they would gather at the tree to open what little
presents they received. There were never very many and a few years
they might only have gotten an orange and some candy (as my own Dad,
Bob, would tell us kids). Oranges seemed to be a special
treat that they only got for Christmas or when one of the girls in the
family had a beau over. They couldn’t remember exactly what the gifts
were wrapped in but supposed it was a tissue paper wrapping.
Both girls had a special gift they remembered getting. For Aunt Ann
this was a “beautiful doll from Dorothy and Hayward.”
(Remember, when Bob, Ann and Boots were young, the elder children were
mostly gone from the home.) Ann was only about 7 or 8 years old but
she took good care of this toddler doll and when she moved out, she
took the doll with her. She had a new dress made and sat her in a
rocking chair and kept her on the floor of her bedroom until just this
year when she passed it on to her granddaughter, Callie, who is now 9
years old herself. Personally, I hope she loves this doll as much as
her grandmother did.
For Aunt Boots, it wasn’t so much the gift itself but the effort that
went into the giving of it. One year, before Lynn was
ever married, he couldn’t get home because of high waters and walked
over the hill from his sister, Dorothy’s, house in Berea (about an
hour’s walk) carrying Christmas presents. Inside were little umbrellas
and rain coats for the girls that they proudly wore everyday to
school.
After the opening of gifts, they would start the dinner as the elder
children would be stopping by for Christmas dinner. This was when the
girls were quite young. Later, the elders started having their own
kids and the big family gatherings at the farm stopped. Their lives
had also been interrupted by The War, and Christmas without the boys
was particularly heart-rending. But Aunt Boots recalls them all
getting together in her childhood and probably playing games likes
Chinese Checkers or Dominoes. They might
have “pulled Taffy” or made popcorn balls.
Though time brings many changes to our lives, through the years some
memories endure and grow more precious to us. I hope that this
Christmas is one that is so happy and filled with love that you’ll
find yourself recalling it in the distant future and sharing it with
your loved ones. Merry Christmas!
Photo of the Spiker children
(estimated to be taken about 1922) submitted by Paula Nolan.
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